How Do You Bounce Back From Disappointment?

How Do You Bounce Back From Disappointment?

I was taught from a young age to “reach for the stars”… with a Mother who told me I could do anything I set my mind to. As a result, I’ve been fortunate to look at life in a positive light. Of course, there are times I have been knocked down due to circumstances beyond my control but I have always gotten back up. I would be lying if I didn’t tell you there were times over the last few years where I’ve been a little slower in getting on my feet with a smile again. We all have those “lessons”… but I believe these are the times when our true character shines. How are we going to react or respond? When life hands you lemons ~ i.e. being passed over at work; someone who you are attracted to doesn’t respond in the same way; a family member turning their back on you; moving to a new city and wondering what the hell are you doing here; and on and on ~ how do you make lemonade???? Here are a few of my favorite stress busters ~ If anxiety rears it’s ugly head I stop what I’m doing, close my eyes, take a long deep breath in through my nose, then blow out the tension/stress through my mouth…and repeat until my mind is calm as well as my heart. I steep a nice cup of white or green tea…creating a peaceful and regenerative ritual; observing all the blessings in my life. I look around to see who I can lift up… such as the sales person at the 7-11; greeting each stranger I meet with a smile and “hello”; calling a friend just to say I was thinking of them; or sending a hand written note to someone special. It’s the little things we take for granted each day that make a big difference in someone’s life. How many times have you lit up when a friend compliments you unexpectedly? It always gives me the warm “fuzzies”! Then there are the tried and true activities to get your butt moving ~ a walk in nature or down a new trail; hitting the gym and sweating to Christina Aguilara’s “Dirty” CD; a quiet sun salutation in the early morning hours after waking to a new day and reading one of my many treasured books. Or you could post a new blog like I’ve learned to do! As Wayne Dyer has always shared ~ Change your Thoughts, Change your Mind. Developing “tools” with which to adjust your mental state of mind and attitude are invaluable in bouncing back from the disappointing lemons of life. Each of those lemons though can be transformed into the most delicious lemonade you could ever imagine! over the counter All it takes is a little Sugar to sweeten the mix! Add some “sugar” into your day, attitude and living…then stand back and watch the abundance pour in! Make it a day filled with the sweet nectar of life! In-Joy! Holly Originally posted on my old blog ~ June 13, 2011 Photography by Marque Kelsey, Quiet Walk...

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Our Teachers Are People Too

Our Teachers Are People Too

“Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery” ~ Charles Caleb Colton Throughout my life I have been extremely fortunate to have teachers who in my opinion have been the best of the best…whether I was competing my horses with a 5 time Olympian such as Anne Kursinski; building a business with personal mentors such as Bob Proctor, John Asaraff or Zig Ziglar; or delving into my own personal journey of self discovery with my shamanic teachers Alberto Villoldo, PhD, and Oscar Miro Quesada. Over the last 20+ years I have heard or listened to comment after comment from people who had no personal knowledge of “who” these and other teachers are at their core, yet felt they had a “right” (and I use that term loosely) to degrade, criticize and tear apart with their own biased judgment, fears and projections. I have been taught over the years to not “engage” when I hear these comments…. but if I don’t engage or defend what my own beliefs are on the matter, am I not colluding in the other person’s “story”? At what point do I stand up and say “this is not acceptable…and you are out of line”? Time after time I see people on Facebook or other social media channels picking apart a teacher’s quote or maliciously making a snide comment to make the teacher appear out of integrity or even wrong. And why is this even necessary? Do these people who stand in the shadows and criticize others have the courage to develop their own research and studies; write books on their personal discoveries; travel exhausting schedules for talks or trainings; or put themselves on the line day after day to spark even one little flame within a stranger amidst the crowd? NO… they don’t… Instead, they pick apart every word spoken to find fault and justification in their own minds for what they are condemning in a teacher/mentor’s words because they hide in their own shadows of disdain. Are these people so naive as to think that EVERY book or word is an ORIGINAL thought? From the moment we are born we learn by imitation. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I have heard Bob Proctor or Zig Ziglar joke about “borrowing” a story in their speech from one of their colleagues! Imitation truly is the sincerest form of flattery! We learn by imitating others from birth…and through experience and knowledge we pick up from family, friends, mentors, teachers and life. This is a life long process. Maybe it’s time people get off their self-righteous soap boxes… and look within. Before spouting off a judgment or criticism about another, look at them as a mirror to see what is being reflected back to us for our own knowing. Listen to the words and ask yourself how they may resonate in your own life… I think you may be surprised at what you hear… In-Joy! Holly   Originally posted April 28, 2012 on my old blog...

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