Fear Is Not the Enemy ~ with Carol Woodliff

Fear Is Not the Enemy ~ with Carol Woodliff

Throughout the world we have heard mutterings of fear whether it be on the news, at your neighborhood bar & grill, sipping coffee with friends or voices in your own head as you drink your tea each morning. I myself have been doing my best to keep the lid on this “committee” in my mind. Even with years of personal development, training with mentors and expanding my knowledge of the psyche, I still fall into that deep pit from time to time. Over the last year I have probably experienced more than previous years. Fortunately, I’ve had incredible friends and family to help me muddle through. Last summer, Carol Woodliff, sent me her new book “From Scared to Sacred: Lessons in Learning to Dance with Life”.  My own life was extremely busy at the time so the book disappeared on my “to be read” shelf. As synchronicity would have it, the book made an appearance yesterday – nearly jumping up and down on the bookshelf as if to say “read me, read me”. Without hesitation I sat down with my coffee in one hand and the book in another…and dove in. The timing was perfect. I felt as though Carol’s Introduction and first chapter were written for me. The following is an excerpt of the “Voice” speaking through her. I hope it will touch you as it touched me: “Fear is not an enemy to be destroyed.  It is a messenger to greet and discern the wisdom of it’s messages. To grow, learn how to dance with fear not fight it. Be gentle and compassionate; hold your fear like a child. Listen. What is it trying to tell you? Is it truly telling you to do something for your physical safety or is it keeping you from living? Only when you can discern this difference, will you transform. Whatever fear or burden you carry, there is a home for you. There is a place to rest. There are open arms to hold you and there is a fire of love so strong to warm you. When you are scared, turn the fear over to me. Ask me to send love, guidance and protection. I hear you. I surround you with angel wings. I carry you to love until you remember it inside. I hold it for you. I hold the vision for you bright and clear. I am near. When you call upon me, I am there in ways only the heart can see – perfect moments of synchronicity, helpful friends and strangers, moments of inspiration and love. More love than your simple heart can hold. I am there. Breathe and fall back into my arms. I will catch you and raise you up when fear overtakes you. I will catch you and cradle you when you are what happens if a woman takes sad. I am pure light and love and I am always yours. This moment til the end of time, I am yours, Love.  Love is always yours.    I will hold you until you remember.” In-Joy! Holly Check Carol’s blog out: www.carolwoodliff.com Photo Credit: AnnieB-art, UK    ...

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Affirmations Tempered in Tough Times by Lee Ann Hopkins

Affirmations Tempered in Tough Times by Lee Ann Hopkins

Affirmations and positive thinking are not bullies and judges. When things are difficult and circumstances are not optimum, the discord between our wildly optimistic affirmations and the present feelings can seem cruel. The affirmations almost feel like a playground taunt (“naaa-na-naanaa-nahhhh, you can’t get me!”) because the difference between now and that future goal, dream, changed behavior or circumstance is at odds with your present. Let me give an example. When you have an affirmation like, “I am delightfully happy in my new career as a ______” and you have just received three overdue bill notices, two rejections from jobs that were beneath your professional level, and your unemployment is about to run out, then the affirmation in the face of these circumstances seems zealously mean. You might even feel dejected by your own attempts at cheer leading. This is understandable. The trouble is that your mind cannot accept the new vision for yourself in light of the present and, often, wants to be a nuisance with thoughts that put you down further: “See, I can’t even get a job that I can do in my sleep!” or “Things are bad because I am a fraud, a loser, etcetera.” There could be any number of nasty comments zooming through your head. None of this is helpful. During tough times, I suggest that we take a different approach. Instead of throwing affirmations overboard (as inaccurate and unrealistic), create space during these cloudy days for additional self-talk, tempered by the current circumstances, but mindful of our achievable goals. We must be gentle with ourselves and take the current predicament seriously. Step into the river of now with all that is going on. Acknowledge it, instead of denying it. Feel the disappointment, the sadness, the grief or whatever comes up for you. Allow the moment to be okay. Remind yourself that YOU are okay and that YOU can handle whatever is coming your way with grace and good form. Most importantly, you are in fact, BECOMING serendipity and that which your affirmations state–albeit, a bit slower than you may like. The Universe wants good things for you. Progress is being made in spite of our inability to see the future. Remember too, that a straight line does not exist between our present and our goal. Be kind to yourself on the journey and don’t give up your positive self-talk. You may temper or adjust the affirmations, but don’t stop them! Keep on, keeping on. You are further on your way than you realize! Thanks to my sister, Lee Ann Hopkins  ~ The Hooray Daily blogger ~ for these amazing insights! Photo Credit: Marque Kelsey,...

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Facebook “friending” etiquette

Facebook “friending” etiquette

  I can’t believe it’s been 7 days since I returned home from my Road Warrior Princess tour of Arizona! So…what have I been doing since my return you ask? Social Media networking, networking and networking some more! Talk about an ever changing “platform”! I spend hours each day following threads of information from one source to another – learning more and more about the integration of social media into our businesses and lives! It’s such a blast to put up a new Facebook Fan Page for a client and watch it grow with just a few easy steps. At first it may seem a little overwhelming or time consuming but it will pay off in the long run. Like growing a garden – your social media “gardens” require planting seeds, nurturing, watering, TLC and weeding before the harvest months later. Here are some simple suggestions to increase conversations and develop relationships: When you are sent an “invite”, take the time to click on their profile and find out a bit about them – where they live, their interests, what they do, etc. When you “accept” the invite…write a personalized message to each new “friend” Add them to one of your “friend” lists. Make “friends” lists – i.e. family, business over the counter friends, peeps, college, high school and on and on. On the “invite”, you’ll see a box that says “add to list”. Click on the box and you’ll see that you can create new lists. Be sure to reply in an uplifting and interesting way when people take the time to post to your wall. Post interesting, informative, educational and fun material on your wall which will keep people coming back to see the latest. Follow the 80/20 rule! 80% should be conversational or informative…and only 20% should be about your product or service!!!! Very Important! Otherwise, people will get tired of always being “sold” and will un-friend you! This is all simple social media etiquette…just like the kind your Mother taught you growing up. Above all else….be polite and respectful. I hope you are all enjoying this beautiful weather as we enter into Fall! In-Joy! Holly Originally published on my www.connecttheedots.wordpress.com blog site April 8,...

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Dreams ~ Illusion vs Reality

Dreams ~ Illusion vs Reality

Dreaming has always been an integral piece to my personal development and processing of what life brings to my journey. The last few days have brought a flood of hidden emotions to the surface of my psyche. After an intense trip to NYC for family business I returned home to collapse from mental, emotional and physical exhaustion… cocooning into the safety of my “nest”. A week later I awoke to the most intense dream…full of details, colors, verbal and non-verbal communication, laughter and physical senses. The dream continued to run through my mind for hours after being fully alert ~ Dream: I was with a very special friend who was driving my car down a city street (yet the street was 20-30′ below the surface as if in a narrow canyon). As we rode along, we talked, laughed, shared our lives. The chatter was light and energetic and fun. Out of the blue he shared with me how his friend’s ex wife had just been released from prison… and then we were back to more lively conversation. The next minute… the car slowed and bumped gently into a huge dump truck that came out of nowhere. It was just parked in the middle of the road. My friend exited our car to check for damage to my bumper but there wasn’t a scratch… It only blocked our moving forward. There was an increased energy between us… and a deep knowing of how we felt… but we were halted in the middle of the road regardless. Then I awoke! Weeks later the dream is still as vibrant to me as it was that morning, yet as my life has unfolded I understand how pieces of the dream correlate to what is happening in my life: the relationship between two people (or even two sides of the same person) hidden below the surface of consciousness; the flow of energy blocked by a stalled out yet movable object; the intense chemistry between two people – seemingly out of control yet unable to move forward; and the ever so popular cliche “a bump in the road”! lol During this morning’s meditation practice…my mind went back to this dream. I was drawn into the concept of two people meeting and “falling out of control”. Is this what it is like when people describe “falling in love” when their knees go weak at the mere thought of the other person? Do their normally rational thoughts have no control in this situation? And how do they react to such feelings? Do they allow the fear of this “unknown” factor in the equation of life to “block” their exploring the capabilities of finding true love? Or do they embrace something so out of the ordinary as this once in a lifetime feeling – following the thread to see where it may lead them? I used to be a very type A personality. I held the “reins” of life tightly…never relinquishing control…but then the reins were ripped from my grip by circumstances “beyond” my control. At first it was devastating. Then I began to understand the journey I was to begin traveling. My self discovery involved learning to ride the currents of the unknown; releasing judgment, attachment and expectations. It has been an adventurous 17 years to date but one roller coaster ride worth every minute as I look back and see how far I have come. That fateful August day in 1993 was the best thing to ever happen to me. Every single person who has entered my life ~ whether for a moment, a day, a...

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Only You Hold The Key

Only You Hold The Key

“Beauty and Truth are lost without the courage to hold them. But one pair of hands can grip too hard, so that the precious slips through the fingers. Loss and pain, sorrow and will, blaze the rough path through the forest. Along the journey there is blood, and there is the death of innocence and the ghosts of what might have been. Each time the path forks, it is faith that chooses the way or doubt that blocks it. Is it despair, or will it be joy? Can there be fulfillment without risk of loss? Will it be an end, or a beginning? Will you move into the light, or return to the dark? Fear hunts, and its arrow strikes heart, mind, belly. Without tending, wounds fester, and scars too long ignored harden into shields that block the eyes from what needs most to be seen. Where does the goddess stand, her sword in hand, willing to fight each battle in its time? Willing, too, to lay down the sword when the time comes for peace. Find her, know her power, her faith, and her valiant heart. For when you look on her at last, you will have the key to free her. And you will find it on a path where no door will ever be locked against you.” ~ excerpt from Nora Roberts book “Key of Knowledge” I thought I was picking up a “summer read” for the warm weather arriving here in Las Vegas but received much more than pure entertainment. This excerpt comes from the last page of the second book in Nora Roberts Key Trilogy… and it caused more personal “questions” to arise than the typical sexy beach read could ever possess! I began asking myself questions such as ~ If I hold the “key” for myself, why do I give it (power) over to others  so easily? Do I really know my own “truth”? And if so, why don’t I trust it like I should? Why do I trust others beliefs/perceptions over my own? Why is it so hard for me to stand my ground and believe in my truth/convictions? And on and on… All of this from a romance novel trilogy!!! It just goes to show we can learn from any circumstance, lesson, book or person put in our path. It’s up to us to find the “key” to the meaning and how it is intended to impact our life. I think this is one novel I may have to read again…this time with a highlighter in hand! In-Joy! Holly Photo credit: Marque Kelsey,...

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